5. Go on Lots of Dates
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The key to Internet dating is to go on lots of dates and meet a wide variety of people. You don’t really get a sense of someone until you meet them and have a one-on-one conversation. Don’t even think of this first meeting as a date. Treat it more like a job interview for a first date. The initial get-together need not be fancy, imaginative, or expensive. Just grabbing a coffee together will suffice. Humans are pretty quick to make judgments, so you will know fairly quickly whether you hit it off or not. If you do, then you should propose another date in person during your initial get-together. If you don’t, then you guys can leave it at that. If you’re on the fence about whether you like them or not, then you should give them a second chance. Sometimes first impressions are wrong.
The other positive thing about Internet dating is you’ll find yourself going on lots more dates with people you haven’t met online. This is because Internet dating is a great confidence booster. Once you’re dating one, two, or three people – what have you got to lose by asking out that cute blonde standing at the bar?
4. Manage Expectations
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It’s important to manage your expectations and understand that not everyone is like you and totally honest in crafting their online persona or that they’ll even respond to your message. Be wary of people who seem too awesome and perfect. Don’t expect your date to look exactly like they do in their profile picture (it may be an old photo or retouched - girls do this all the time). If you manage your expectations, then you're less likely to be disappointed.
3. Keep it Fresh
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You might think that once you’ve joined an online dating site, filled out your profile, and added some photos you won’t need to bother with any more updates. You’re wrong. It’s a big mistake not to regularly revisit and refresh your profile and photos section. Once you’ve been on your site of choice for a couple of weeks and your fresh meat status has worn off, it’s crucial to tweak your profile and photos. This is important as it shows you lead an active life and makes your profile seem fresh and new. This will increase your chances of people messaging you and wanting to get to know you. So make a habit of adding something new each week.
2. Save Money by Avoiding the Bells and Whistles
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If you have decided to pony up some cash and invest in your dating future by purchasing a subscription to a dating site, then there is absolutely no reason to spend any more money. Seriously, save it for the date. Some sites will try to upsell you with special features. They want you to pay more so you can highlight your profile, see if they’ve read your message, or even give you a person’s phone number without having to ask them (creepy). These add-on services will not help you meet more people, get more dates, get you laid, or deliver you a serious relationship. These services do nothing more than feed on people’s insecurities and add to the company’s bottom line. Avoid them at all costs.
1. Be Bold and Start a Conversation
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If you come across someone you like online, be bold and make contact with them. Don’t be passive and poke, wink, or nod at them. Write them an email. It doesn’t have to be long and it should not contain your life’s story. Keep it simple and short. Write a one- or two-sentence email picking up on something unique or interesting you discovered on their profile. Infuse the email with a little charm, wit, and humor.
Whatever you do, don’t come on too heavy, profess your love, or start making wedding plans in this introductory email. All the first email has to do is show them you’re interested and get them to check out your awesome profile. Write about chicken parm sandwiches if it’s something you both have in common. If they like you, they’ll reply. Then you can really getting the conversation going.
If you have started a conversation with someone it’s incredibly important to write back to them in a timely manner. Don’t leave them hanging without a response for more than two days. Doing so shows a lack of respect and is not a cool way to start a relationship. If this happens you will notice she quickly loses interest. Once you have written back to each other three or four times, it’s time to take it up a notch and prepare to meet in the real world.