The Top 10 Tips For Internet Dating
Internet dating is no longer taboo and strictly for techno geeks and nerds. Now it's so common that it’s mainstream. If you’re not doing it, then there’s something wrong with you because these days it’s the way to meet that casual fling or very special someone. So jump onboard the information superhighway and get your date on! Who knows, love (or whatever you’re looking for) might just be a click away.
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10. Know What You Want
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The great thing about Internet dating is it forces you to really reflect on what you want in a partner-in-crime. Most sites require you to write a few sentences or more describing yourself and what you’re looking for in an ideal partner. For a lot of people, especially guys, this may be the first time you’ve actually thought about what personality traits and characteristics you’re looking for (aside from hair color and chest size) in a date. Take the time to really reflect on what you want. Consider it carefully. Be mindful of not being too specific (like desiring an exact height or that he/she graduated from Harvard in '06). When crafting the section on what type of person you are looking for, be mindful to keep an open mind and do not bombard anyone with a long list of unrealistic expectations because this will just scare off any potential suitors.
The truly great thing about Internet dating is it forces you to think about the qualities you want in a partner. If you don’t know what you’re looking for, how do you expect to find it? You may not meet this person online, but when you do meet them (wherever that may be) you’ll know they’re it.
9. Pick the Website That'll Give You What You Want
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There are a ton of dating websites out there, all catering to different types of people, turn-ons, sexualities, religions, and different sorts of relationships. Just be sure to do your research and pick the website that best suits what you’re looking for.
Here’s a list of 10 websites to get you started:
eHarmony – This is a large website that requires users to fill out a lengthy survey. This site is tailored for those looking for marriage/long term relationships. It also skews a bit on the older side.
Match – This is one of the biggest dating websites for those looking for more serious relationships.
Nerve – For the more casual relationship/hook-up.
Lavalife – Allows you to choose what type of relationship you’re looking for: Dating, Relationship, or Intimate.
Adult Friend Finder – Use this to try and get laid, but good luck. This problem with this site is the male/female ratio is equivalent to that of a mens' locker room.
Plenty of Fish – It’s free, but has a reputation of being full of flaky people.
Ashley Madison – Use this site if you’re married and want to have an affair with a similarly married person. Though, publically looking for an affair probably isn't the smartest thing.
The Onion – No, this is not a joke. The satirical newspaper has its own online personals section and it’s full of funny people.
8. Cough Up Some Cash
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Paying for an online dating service does not make you desperate or a loser. In reality it’s the opposite. By paying a fee you are showing that you are of means (we’re talking $20 – 30 a month here, hardly a fortune) and it shows you’re serious about dating and finding someone. It also means that the people you meet online are similarly serious and most importantly active on the site. Too many of these free online dating sites are filled with people who are inactive, got drunk, and signed up, or are currently in a relationship. Trying to make a connection with these types of people is a waste of your time.
Also, if you pay for online dating you are more invested in the process and will make more of an effort to get your money’s worth. This may result in you finding the love of your life...or just someone to have great sex with.
7. Be Honest
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Honesty is imperative when it comes to Internet dating. Don’t lie about your height, income, physicality, hobbies, or anything for that matter. Lying will get you nowhere and is not a good foundation to start any relationship. Period. If anything, underplay yourself a little. Keep some mystery. That said, don’t undersell yourself too much. It's essential you put your best foot forward and present the real you. Once you’ve finished writing your profile get a female friend to read over it and provide feedback. This is a great way to really know whether you’re presenting your best self and will test if it’s pulling the right heartstrings in the opposite sex.
The profile page is your most important tool and it’s worth investing in. Make your profile page personal, intriguing, and inviting. The profile needs to do two things. It needs to attract those looking for someone and it needs to seal the deal with those you seek out.
6. Play the Numbers Game
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The great thing about Internet dating is there are literally thousands of singles waiting to meet you. For guys this is especially true as there is a way higher ratio of women to men on most of the larger websites. It’s like walking into a bar and having the opportunity to connect with every single hot woman in there, but on your own time. Plus you have time to decide what to say and write. The downside to Internet dating is not everyone will respond to you. Don’t take this personally. How could you? These people don’t know you and have never actually met you. In fact, not replying to a message you sent says more about them than you. Count yourself lucky if one in five people you contact write back. Don’t be discouraged by the level of rejection (or rather lack of response from someone). Internet dating is a numbers game.
On the flip side, if someone messages you then you must make the effort and write back. What have you got to lose? If someone is interested, you should at least dig a little deeper and see if you’re interested in them. Remember that Internet dating is about starting a conversation.